Brae. A gay woman's tale!

I hate to admit this .. but .. <gulp!>  I am not always right … 

Over the years I have made decisions that have made me the person I am today.   I have no real regrets about these decisions but when I look back I know that some of them were not the best for me, mainly because I allowed myself to be convinced by other people at the time that they were.

As I have grown older and wiser <cough!!> through work and life I have realised that when you have to convince someone into making a decision then what you are actually doing is taking away THEIR choice and making them accept what YOU think is right.

If I feel I have to convince someone to accept a job, then I step back and allow them time to make their own mind up.  Sometimes the answer I want is not always what I get, but I know, in the long run, that the decision was made by the applicant and I have not forced someone into a job that they will then leave.  Leaving me with an unhappy applicant, an unhappy client and an unhappy me!

I am now a very hard woman to convince of anything.   Perhaps that is a fault of mine, maybe it is a strength,  I really don’t know.  All I know is that if I believe in something or someone then no amount of “convincing” will change my mind.

It is futile to try to change anyone’s mind, or make decisions for them.  We do have to stand back and allow people to decide what is right for them otherwise we run the risk of being blamed if things do not work out as planned.  What we can offer is our support for their decision, whether we like it or not.