Brae. A gay woman's tale!

We all need confidence.   Confidence is a mighty tool that we can use contructively in all aspects of our lives, whether it be personal relationships, business or pleasure.

The strength that confidence can give you is amazing, what people lack in talent they can make up for with a good old dose of confidence and personality.

There is certainly nothing wrong with confidence .. until it begins to turn into an egotistical belief.

Confident people know their strengths .. and their weaknesses.  Egotists believe they have no weakness.  

Egotists are always right, divert blame from themselves, cannot relinquish control and have the complete inability to apologise or to accept that they are wrong.  Sadly their pride stops them from doing this.

Egotists are annoying and can be very damaging.   They ruin opportunities given to them in their blind self belief.   Their pride twisting facts to fit their story and their control.   No-one elses opinion matters, they are wrong anyway, so why should the egotist give their point of view any consideration.

Sadly, more often than not, they end up driving away the people who care for them as the heavy toll of banging their head against a brick wall becomes too much.

Next time you have a disagreement remember that too much talking will make you deaf just like too much ego will make you blind.

Valentines day is fast approaching .. for some it will be a day of being spoilt and made to feel special.  For others it will be a lonely time and just another day.

For all of us the days of competing to see who received the most valentines cards (one from your mum didn’t count!) are probably far behind us and now most of us are grateful to receive just one.

It is a pity we do not have an official “Friendship Day”, it would be wonderful to send a message to the people I spent time with in real life and on-line, as friendship comes in many different guises and for me some of my friends have been around longer than any of my relationships. 

I have friends who I would lay down my life for, I have friends I can speak to, who want to listen to me.  I have friends I watch over, in my own little (and sometimes misunderstood!) way.

I have friends who make me laugh, friends who make me mad (I do like a good argument!) and friends who understand me and my sometimes very “black and white” way of seeing things.

I have friends who I have never met in real life, who I appreciate so much for the online laughs, comments and for taking an interest in me.

If you are reading this then you probably fall into one of the categories above …  so this post is for you.

So .. for this Valentines Friendship Day a huge thanks and virtual McHug from me to you .. whoever you are and wherever you may be.

Your appreciative friend  ….