Our sacrifice

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We have all been in situations where we have given up on what we want .. or what we know is right .. for a variety of reasons .. guilt, responsibility or we feel we owe a debt of gratitude.

What we actually do is sacrifice our own dreams and hopes in order to stop hurting someone else, we take the hurt ourselves rather than cause hurt or disappointment

.. but then .. we stop… we think… we look at what we have .. and what we are giving up and we realise that we cannot hold onto something that is already slipping away … what we are doing is delaying the inevitable .. waiting on the “right time” or a “good excuse” … in truth we are simply trying to protect someone elses feelings at the cost of our own.

The unknown is scary .. but we have to accept that we are not responsible for keeping someone else happy, especially at the cost of our own happiness.

It isn’t easy … we invest a lot into our relationships … we do not like to think our investment has been wasted… but sometimes the truth is .. it has … 

We do have to answer tough questions within ourselves … we do have to accept that if we make a decision it will hurt someone .. but if we don’t we will simply hurt ourselves.




Before it is too late

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You never stop learning.

Life is like that, it constantly teaches you something.  You may not always like what you learn, but it is something happens and you have to accept that.

My new career has taught me many lessons in the short time I have been doing it.

It has taught me that people left behind feel anguish and pain that doesn’t always hit home until the final goodbye at the funeral.

I have learned that the “toughest” of people feel the pain deepest.

I have learned that nothing is guaranteed in life, apart from death.

I have given myself a new goal in life  … that I will never walk away from anything because of pride or anger.

I will forgive and move on.

I will say what I feel needs to be said and if it is not received the way I intend it to, then I will know I have tried my best.

I will not worry about people who are determined to misunderstand me, that is their choice.

I will simply love the people who are in my life and I guarantee that ever single one of my friends know that I love them.

I will never put myself into a position where I think “it’s too late”.  I do not want that pain in my heart or my head.

I have played the guilt card too often … time to realise that I have nothing to be guilty for.

The right time …

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You never quite know what you are going to feel

or how you are going to react.

You never quite know what is right and what is wrong

but you know when it is time.

You feel the guilt, the responsibility, the fear

it all seems so big, unconquerable.

You just need to take one step, just one..

and your time will be right.

Hassle free zone

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Right… I’ve had enough.

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try some people just cannot take NO for an answer.

I’m sick and tired of being understanding and caring and frankly I’ve had enough.

People try to push buttons in all sorts of ways, by trying to make you feel guilty/sorry/sad etc… well bugger it!

Sometimes being honest and saying what you think isn’t always the best way to go .. but it is the way I am.. and the way I will continue to be.

If you don’t like it.. fine .. that is not my problem.

Now .. accept what is, or move on.   Stop bugging me.   It will have the opposite effect to what you want!

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