Brae. A gay woman's tale!

All of us carry emotional baggage.   It is only natural that we do.  I often read that people want someone with “no baggage” when describing the type of partner they want.

Personally I would run from anyone who ever said to me that they had “no baggage” .. they either do not have the depth of emotional maturity that I want or that they have simply never been able to open up, take a risk and give their heart.

Our past and our “baggage” make us who we are, we should learn from our past, from our hurt and sometimes we need  time to wallow in it to fully understand how to move on properly from it.     We cannot rely on someone else to do this for us, it is personal, it is yours, you need to take responsibility for it.

You see people jump from one relationship straight into another again and again … its a cycle .. it will go on being repeated because some people just cannot bear to step back and accept reasons for failure.   These people rarely learn to love deeply or completely.   They are always chasing, searching for the thrill that they believe is love.

Sometimes you need the time and the space to unpack, examine and repack your baggage.   You learn so much about yourself and your life that it is something that everyone needs to do, and not just once, but whenever emotions have been stretched or strained.

The beastie of your baggage, although it does bite in the early days,  can actually be a very good friend.

With a little TLC of yourself and your emotions you will actually look back on your “baggage” and realise it isn’t baggage at all.. it is a memory, a lesson, a part of your life that if you had to live your life over would you really change.

Enjoy your baggage, let it hurt it you at first, learn to live with it, eventually you will come to love it.   Just give it time.