The cost of human kindness

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We all do something stupid at times .. at the most inappropriate times.

Setting up a new business from home is a tough call .. you have to earn to live .. you have to work unsociable hours and weekends and sacrifice your social life in a BIG way in order to reach where you are aiming for.

On Friday I picked up a deposit for a wedding ceremony I am taking in March … £100 crisp notes in an envelope… and somehow I think I have flung the lot in my fire … I have hunted high and low but there is no sign of the envelope and with a sinking heart I have to admit that I think I have burnt it.

I announced this today on Facebook .. to point out my stupidity … what I didnt expect was for 3 people (non of whom I have actually met in real life) offer to send me money.     I was touched beyond words with their kindness but I will not take their money, I am not desperate and it is not a matter of eating or not … it just means I will have to curtail my shenanigans for a few weeks.

However, these people got me thinking … about kindness and about people.

I am by nature a kind person .. I know that .. it is a great strength of mine .. and a great weakness.   I know through my life I have had people who have realised this about me and used me .. I also know there are people who have been kinder to me than I can ever repay.

The act of kindness cannot be measure in money terms .. it is measure by the spirit in which it is given or offered and I have never given anything that I did not want to give, although I do realise that sometimes I have felt “obligated” but that says more about the people who have made me feel that way than it does about me.

At this time in my life I have less money than I have ever had.  I have to carefully plan each week to make sure that the money I have lasts until more money comes in yet in a strange way it has given me a sense of freedom and I know now that kindness is not in the gifts you can give but the attention and the care that you can give to someone.

As the old saying goes .. Human kindness costs nothing.



The act of kindness



Kindness should never be misinterpreted, never abused and certainly never demanded.

I know that I am a kind person, I also know that this is something I inherited from my parents, both of who are, and were, wonderful kind and funny people.

I have met many kind people in my life, who have touched my heart with their kindness towards me, simple things, sometimes from complete strangers who took the time to care for someone in their own unique way.

I know I am far from perfect, I have no wish to be perfect but I do know that I am kind and I do know that mostly this is taken in the way it is meant.

Kindness really costs nothing.   The most random act of kindness towards me was from an old woman I met one day at Charlestown harbour.    I had gone there to try to clear my mind and found myself crying.    This woman came and sat beside me and for a while said nothing as I tried to stop the tears.  

Eventually she turned to me and started to chat about how beautiful the view was and how special a place it was for her as she visited it often with her husband who had recently died.

She turned to me, touched my hand and simply said “you are not alone”.

A simple and compassionate gesture but a wonderful gift that I have not forgotten.

Be kind.




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