Too often we are quick to speak, or act.

Too often we say things that we mean to hurt or punish, or take an action (or no action!) that is inappropriate or deceitful.

Too often we expect that our actions will be forgotten or forgiven where in reality what we say or do can have a long lasting hurtful effect on someone.

Too often we refuse to take responsibility for our actions and refuse to accept that the reaction we receive is because of what we have done or said.

Too often we expect “sorry” to be enough to smooth things over.

I hold my hands up and say I have been guilty of all of the above and I have sometimes paid a heavy price.

I have realised that there is no use in passing the blame to someone who may react badly to what I say or do.

I am currently in a situation where my reaction has caused a great deal of friction.

Am I being stubborn .. probably .. am I hurt .. yes.   I can’t forget that, or sweep it aside just to make someone’s life easier.  I feel of no consequence.  I will not change my mind.