To live you have to experiment, to have the ability to experiment you have to have confidence, to have confidence you have to be loved, to be loved you have to love”  Oscar Wilde

Life after a long term relationship can be a scary prospect for all of us.  The whole “doing it alone” experience changes from thinking “us” to thinking “me”.  This effects our life in the most profound ways, from shopping for one to arranging a trip or a holiday to going to bed alone and waking up alone.

For many of us, being alone is a frightening prospect and we have all, at some point, rushed into a relationship to stop the feeling of hurt or loneliness, only to find ourselves in another relationship that is unfulfillable.

I have now settled into single life, I enjoy it.  I can choose my activities (or lack of!), choose what I want to cook (badly!), and choose who I socialise with.   I have met some lovely people who would never have been in my life if I had still been in a relationship.  These “new” friends make me laugh and because many of them are women in the same situation as me, we understand each other and can talk probably better to our new friends than our old ones, many of whom are settled in relationships.

It has taken a few months for me t0 get comfortable with my new life but I know I am in the right place right now.. and that fills me with a confidence I had lost.

For all of us out there who are single, take your time, learn about you and what you want, meet new people, make new friends, begin to live a little.  Through all of this you will have new experiences, some good, some bad, but you will learn and start to live.

Happy singledom ladies!