Coming out of a relationship can be an emotionally traumatic time for many of us.  We often feel worthless and full of doubt about ourselves.   Often parting words are aimed to hurt, sometimes as a way of lashing out, but sometimes, and sadly very often, these words are meant in a cruel and callous manner.

We have all been guilty of deliberately saying things that would hurt our partner or our ex, none of us are innocent BUT some people take this to a whole new level.

I am lucky, me recent ex and I are quite good friends and although there have been verbal shots (from both sides!), at the end of the day we respect and like each.   This cannot be said for everyone.

I read today a little saying ““Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong”.  This is so true.

Weak and emotionally immature people deliberately lash out verbally to get a reaction, they aim to hurt.   Often they do, but more often than not they simply show themselves up for what they are.

The impression of image and superiority is often important to these people as the realisation of their true status is often too much for them to bear.

There is a lesson in being gracious, one that I still have to remember at times but I’m getting there and I’m not afraid to admit that I am far from perfect.

Certainly we should and we do NEED to love ourselves, but we have to make sure we do not confuse this with false pride.   Pride is important, but too much pride is a burden and frankly makes a fool of you.

So next time you think about lashing out to try to make a fool of someone, stop, think… just who are you making a fool of … the answer is in your mirror.