Regret is a punishment that we give ourselves. It is the inability to accept that we have tried the very best we could in circumstances in our past. There is no use wishing for a different outcome, a different reaction, a different situation, we have to accept what has gone and move forward.
We have to accept that our choice, whether right or wrong was the choice that WE made, no-one forced us… we made our choice and we have to accept that at the time it was a decision that felt right to us, whatever our reasons, whether it be fear, guilt or frustration.
I found this quote that sums it up quite nicely:
“If you followed your heart, then whatever the outcome, you acted bravely, and deserve to feel pride not regret. Try to understand and accept that it is impossible to foresee every potential outcome in any scenario. It is also impossible to know what results the alternative choice may have brought. You trusted your intuition, and even though you may not like the results that this action brought, undoubtedly you can learn and grow from the situation.”
There really is no point in tearing ourselves apart because of regret… we cannot change our past decisions and we have to accept our position or situation as it is and move forward. In the end the only person who is punishing us is ourselves.
Brae. A gay woman's tale! 