Another requested blog  

Some of ‘us’ love being on our own,do you think that is where mistresses come in?


Mistresses is not a word I would use, I see that as being someone who is involved with someone who is already in a relationship.

I tend to say “Friends with Benefits” … and yes I have gone down that route … I have also had casual one night stands.   

I have now moved on to another place .. to be honest I can’t be bothered … sex is sex … and sometimes very good BUT sex with love is something much more, something deeper and more emotional. 

I know the good and bad of FWB … and at the time it suited me fine … as it may for a lot of people out there, the physical need to be held and made to feel special is something that some people need from this type of “alliance”.   It always left me feeling that there was something missing .. I need the emotional connection and that doesn’t come easy.

I like being on my own, purely for emotional reasons .. I NEED quietness and peace of mind .. it is important to me and I am not prepared to give that up .. it took me a long, long time to find it.

I would rather be on my own than in a relationship that does not give me what I need.   I cannot be doing drama and I can’t put up with lies or feeling that I am just a handy option for someone, and I will not, under any circumstances, be a dirty wee secret.

Would I go back into a relationship .. well, yes … if I met someone who was on the same wavelength as me .. someone who is happy in their life, someone who understands that I need my “own time”.

Would I consider casual sex or FWB now .. No … been there, done that … moved on.