Definition:  A need is something that is necessary for an organism to live a healthy life. . Needs are distinguished from wants in that, in the case of a need, a deficiency causes a clear adverse outcome: a dysfunction or death. In other words, a need is something required for a safe, stable and healthy life (e.g. food, water, shelter) while a want is a desire, wish or aspiration. 

I don’t know if I have this relationship thing all wrong or all right in my head.  I often come across the word “need” … as in “needing” someone in a persons life to make them happy.

To be honest, the word “need” worries me.   Anyone who is happy with their life and has everything they need to survive, should not need someone else in their life to make them happy or complete.

The responsibility of being “needed” is not something I really want … how can anyone be in a relationship knowing that they have the responsibility for someone else’s happiness in their hands.   That burden is too big for me to bear.

I know I don’t “need” anyone in my life … that smacks of entrapment to me and those that believe that they need any individual for a life that makes them happy usually end up trapping themselves in a life that is unfulfilling and controlled.

When it comes to love, it is someone I want that is important to me.   I want that woman in my life, I want to make her feel at peace and happy and loved … I want to spend time with her, I want to share things and plan things with her.   It is not a need, it is a want.

I never wanted to “needed” in anyone’s life.   I just want to be wanted… for me that is the biggest compliment.