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I do not think I understood the meaning of contentment when I was younger.   There was always something to aim for, people to see or a woman to conquer!

These days things are very different, maybe I have experienced enough good AND bad times in my life to understand it .. or maybe I have just grown weary of the drama and the arguments, I don’t know but right now I am contented… I am happy, relaxed, peaceful and enjoying myself.

As I look back and remember what was important to me when I was younger, success, money, love .. I realise that these still hold true but in a very different way.

Success is now being happy with my life, money is having enough to get me from one pay day to another but able to not worry too much, love.. well, love is all about learning to love yourself, the good and the bad.

I can’t say I “practice” contentment .. or I looked for it, it just sort of happened.

I have achieved and gained lots in my life.  I have also lost everything I worked all my life for and had to start again.. and I discovered the actual starting again was much less than the worry about having to do it..   It gave me a different perspective and although I do, from time to time, lose my peace and my contentment, I know it is lurking out there waiting for me.  Sometimes I just have to wait for it to return.

Acceptance

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All of us at sometime have to stop and just look at our lives, our situations and our feelings and face up to a few home truths that are sometimes difficult to accept.

We have to look at ourselves on the inside.   The outside doesn’t matter .. it is superficial .. it is what INSIDE that makes us, our feelings, our thoughts, our acceptance of who we are, good and bad.   It is only when we can do this and truly accept our faults and weaknesses along with our strengths that we really begin to understand ourselves and life.

I have plenty of faults, as we all do.  None of us are perfect or anywhere near it .. but you cannot go through life concentrating on what you are not, what we have to do is look at what we are .. honestly .. and realise that we will never be happy while we pretend to be someone that we are not.

I accept myself, and all my bad points… I know my weaknesses … I know where I fall down but I also know my strengths .. 

I am happy to accept me as I am.   Maybe that is why I have found my peace again.

 

Real love

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We all expect different things from love.

We all need to have all we expect.  What we expect is not necessarily what we get, not what we understand, not what we recognise from the movies, songs and the story books.

For me, love and life is about peace … finding peace on my own or finding someone who can give me peace, follow me when I am being strong and hold me up when I am weak.   It is not about the excitement of climbing a mountain but a gentle stroll through beautiful countryside, a slow discovery of small beautiful things.

Love is finding someone who understands the pressure of waiting on the waves to crash and who can quietly rescue you and keep you afloat when they do.

Someone who can laugh, who can cry, who can argue but who can listen and understand that sometimes the happiness is when I am peaceful, the sadness when I feel it slipping away and the anger born from frustration of a voice not being heard or understood.

To recognise love, do not use your ears, do not think of hugs and kisses or sex, do not think of the expensive presents, that is immature love.

Real love comes from quiet actions, from understanding, from seeing the little things, for the support given, for the quiet smiles, for the happily sharing of day to day boring tasks, for the touch in the wee small hours to acknowledge that you are there.

Real love is not about taking, about searching for excitement but about quietly giving and accepting in your own way.

That is love.

What really matters..

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It’s Christmas .. most of us have woken to a pile of presents from our friends and family, but we will all have our favourite and not necessarily the most expensive one.

For me having Vaner take 3 hours yesterday to make me cards is very special.  I awoke this morning to a fantastically funny card that she made me .. with a long ribbon that trailed through the house to the bathroom, at the end of the ribbon was a pack of Tunnocks Caramel Wafer biscuits .. the thought and the care that went into this really means more to me than I can say ..  I laughed so much at this .. a small thing .. a thoughtful thing .. something that means an awful lot to me.

This Christmas take a minute out of your day to have a wee thought for the people who have saved hard all year to give a small thoughtful, inexpensive present to the people they care about.  These are the people who deserve our thoughts today.  These are the people who really have love in their hearts.

Have a great day everyone .. I hope you find peace in your hearts and your minds.

P.S.   The hats belong to my mum!  She made us wear them!

 

 

 

My no-where place…

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Peace of mind is a strange thing.   It develops it’s importance over the years, sneaking up from behind the need to be rich, famous, successful or anything else.

As I have aged I have changed and developed who I am, not by any deliberation but by a slow natural process. I know that I have now reached the place in life where peace of mind is the most important thing for me.

The past year or so, I have spent time mulling about, thinking a lot, spending time on my own and getting to know me all over again after realising that somewhere I had lost the soul of who I was.

It hasn’t always easy, I’ve made a few mistakes, I’ve handled things in the wrong way (and I am certainly not proud of those things), but they have helped me on my journey.

Recently I was flung into another turmoil, a rather more lovely and pleasant turmoil than some of the the things that have been rattling round my old brain – but still, something that could mix up my life as it was such a shock to me.   It made me suspicious and protective of myself.

Then something slowly dawned on me… life isn’t about possibilities or maybe’s, life is about actual situations and “the moment”, not the any future that we may dream of, or hope for.

I decided to take a risk, because that is what felt right in my head.   I’m glad I did.

My no-where place has a new chapter in it’s life.  A chapter that so far is filled with laughter, affection and good feeling.

My place of peace.   No amount of money can buy this feeling.

 

A wet weekend

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It looks as if this weekend is going to be a wet one .. which is a bit of a bugger since I am (for the 2nd weekend running!) stuck at my cottage with Brae, who still has her stitches from her cruciate ligament repair.

I was planning to get out into the garden (and hopefully the weather will let me do this!) but it is not going to be a weekend for trying to brown my “peelly wally” skin in preparation of a week being a slob in Lesvos in a couple of weeks.

I love my wee cottage and the peace of mind that it brings me, I am happy to spend time on my own (well .. with my dug!) but when it is forced upon me as when I was snowed in for fortnight during the winter… or now because of Brae’s leg, I feel trapped, restless, not at peace.

I can keep myself busy even if I can’t get out in the garden.. I am going to start making paper logs for my fire (free fuel.. love it!), I am going to finish packing for my holiday, I can reorganise cupboards again, I can rock on my chair and drool .. you know .. lots of things!

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Mostly I am going to concentrate on getting back to a peaceful state of mind .. I may also read, watch some films, play with my iPod ..

So … that’s my wet weekend … JEEZ Im getting boring!

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