When you start to really know someone all their physical characteristics start to disappear. You begin to dwell in their energy. You recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the the person, Not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty..You can lust after it, be infatuated with it, want to own it, you can love it with your eyes and body but not your heart.  That’s why when you really connect with a persons inner self any physical imperfections disappear and become irrelevant

I found this statement in a group I am in on Facebook today and it hit a wee spot with me and no doubt a few people out there.

I have been very guilt in the past of being keen on someone because of the way they looked … and nine times out of ten I have been left feeling disappointed as their look never made me happy.   Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that there was anything wrong with these ex lovers… just that we did not connect in a way that satisfied me or her!

Attraction is a funny thing, what you find attractive and cute at the beginning can become nothing more than an annoyance later on, leaving you frustrated and flailing in a relationship that is doomed to fail.

What really touches my heart and makes me love completely is someone who I can connect with in a very emotional way .. someone strong enough to stand up and allow their soul to be “naked” in an honest and true way.

I do not fall in love with people who I like the look of, I fall in love with women who I connect with – women I understand and who understand me.  Women that I trust.

I also do not fall in love easily or quickly .. it takes me time and I like that … I would hate to fall in love with everyone I dated … all that emotion would kill me *smile*.

I don’t know all the answers to love, I don’t know all the answers to me … and nor do I want to .. a lovely wee surprise connection is always welcome!